Skip to main content

All the Reasons Being Single can be Amazing, Even on Valentine's Day

While NBA All Star weekend has taken Toronto by storm, I know many of us, especially all my international followers and friends, are still aware that it's Valentine's Day. I've never been one to wallow if I was single on February 14th. To be honest, it has no impact on me. Yet, I know there are some people out there who feel a sense of loneliness and sorrow because of what the day represents.

In previous years I've written words of encouragement since I recognize that those emotions are real and valid because as humans we aren't designed to live in solitude. If you feel sorrowful, it's OK, but this year I wanted to shed some light on the beauty of being single (without taking away from the beauty of relationships that are based on respectful love). So let's take a look at all the reasons being alone is amazing.


  • Being single gives you the chance to spend time with yourself. It forces you to get to know who you are and enjoy yourself, literally.
  • Being single allows you to examine your life (sometimes solely because you're with yourself). This can be painful and tough but the outcome is that you can find ways to develop and to grow.
  • Being single means you don't need to worry about anyone else if you decide to pick up and leave the city one day, permanently or just on a vacation. You have the freedom to go wherever you want whenever you want.
  • Being single means you can take as much time as you like to focus on your career and find out what makes you happy. You can take financial risks because you only have to worry about providing for yourself.
  • Being single puts you in a position where you need to look for ways to keep yourself busy. You can sign up for classes, take up hobbies, go out to events, read, hit the gym, plan coffee dates...etc. You can keep your calendar full with creative and fun things to do that widen and give colour to your life.
  • Being single requires you to take on some tasks alone. Scared of bugs? Well you can't get your significant other to go kill that centipede, time for you to be your own hero! Suddenly the sight of insects aren't as terrifying anymore! Of course there are far more profound examples than that, like being able to buy property on your own because you've been saving up alone and set a goal for yourself to achieve that one day.
  • Being single allows you to be free of someone else's emotions when making decisions or just going about everyday life. It may sound selfish but it truly is an amazing feeling to only have to think of your own self and emotions, especially if you've come out of an abusive or toxic relationship.



There may be many of us that may never get married or perhaps never find a long term partner (who knows, I might even be single for the rest of my life). It doesn't mean you're any less of a person or that you've failed at life. Many of us may even choose that life willingly and that's OK (I'm directing this specifically at women, who are raised to a believe that being married and having kids is necessary).

With all that said, go ahead and enjoy Valentine's Day as a day of love, even without the romance. Love is still love whether it's directed at yourself, your family or your friends and there is so much beauty and joy in that. Embrace your single life and all the positivity that comes with it!
Happy Valentine's Day my loves!

xoxo,

Erica

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Men's Coats and Jackets - Part 1

I know that some guys are completely lost when it comes to fashion. Especially in North America, where it's not exactly something men focus on, or perhaps feel uncomfortable thinking about it. Although, times have changed and I've begun to see far more fashionable men these days than in the past. I get that some men here are still so resistant to a tighter fit (no I'm not talking about super skinny jeans) but I can't tell you how sexy and appealing it is to me when a man has the confidence to pull off clothing and hairstyles that have more of a European flare to it.

You know how they say some guys look at a girl and maybe undress her with their mind....I do the total opposite. Sometimes I look at at a random guy and envision them with a certain hair style and clothing I find would be stylish on them. It's just my thing, a weird obsession with men's fashion.

Anyway, the point of this post was to help guys out visually when it comes to winter jackets and coats. …

Why "Success" Doesn't Always Mean Happiness: Success Redefined

SUCCESS! What is the first thing that pops into your mind when you hear the word success? What makes a person successful? Is it money, status, power, fame, or is it something else? The reality is, that in our Western society, most people identify success as some mixture of money, status, power, and fame (and with women, beauty is generally a necessary component to add to all of that) but is that truly success?

When I was in college and university I remember mulling over the topic of success and that's when I came to a powerful realization for myself - personal success is not defined by money, status, power, beauty or fame at all. That's what the outside world tells us or demonstrates as success. It's what we see emblazoned in ads and in our media. It's what we pass down to each other and what we talk about in social media. All of these things are what we equate with success - and success equals happiness right?
Based on our notions of success shouldn't celebrities…

Self-Perception and the Destructive Impact of Social Media: Success Redefined (Part II)

In my last post I talked about how society's definition of success perpetuates unhappiness (click here to have a read). Rather than looking at success as a measure of our fulfillment and contentment, we measure it by wealth, power, fame and beauty. Unfortunately, social media has only heightened our awareness of these ideals. A medium that was once created simply for connectivity is now a massive marketing tool and a place where people share the best moments of their lives. 
Prior to social media, if you wanted to see someone's photos, hear their opinion or learn about them, you'd either see it/hear it directly from them or get wind of it through the grapevine (unless they were so famous that you'd see them in traditional media). You weren't continually bombarded with information about everyone's lives and although the measure of societal success was relatively the same, there was less of likelihood that you'd feel like you didn't measure up on a consta…

Post-Traumatic Growth: When Trauma Transforms Your Life

Trauma. It's a 6 letter word that carries so much power and complexity. The Oxford dictionary defines it as "a deeply distressing or disturbing experience." Trauma represents such a varying degree of experiences: rape, emotional abuse, assault, torture, a plane crash, war crimes, bullying, witnessing violence...really the list can go on. One of the hardest forms of trauma is that which is committed against you by others humans. Some people have had repeated traumatic experiences. Some people have had varying forms of trauma. Some have been exposed to trauma for a long period of time. Regardless, no one escapes from trauma without it impacting their lives and the way they socialize with the world.

When you go through a traumatic experience your entire world is flipped upside down. Emotions such as fear, shame, guilt, sadness, anger, sorrow, numbness, confusion and grief all occur -- sometimes being felt within the same time-period. You feel like you can't make sense o…

Dora the Explorer Grown Up - Back Pack Included

I'M BACK! Okay I know I barely posted on Blogger through the winter but if you want to keep up to date with me, I post often on my Instagram account, @down_to_mars_girl, so you can follow me there for my fashion updates and things about my life.

This weekend the weather was phenomenal so I barely even needed the jacket I had on in the first few shots. What I'm wearing is pretty simple actually, it's the details of each item that make things pop. My favourite aspect of the whole outfit was the leather like sleeves of my sweater in a mesh pattern. The jacket I have on is ribbed in certain areas with shoulder padding and has studs embedded into it. The high waist pants I have on are of a thick sleek fabric with a sheen to it. The belt is made out of metal plates. OH, and don't you love my little bag? Reminds me of the 90s when we all pranced around with those mini back packs. I figure if Dora the Explorer grew up, this is what she'd wear but maybe I just think that b…